God who chooses us
God’s eyes are on you, and He hasn't forgotten about you.
For so long, the feelings and the pain of being unnoticed and overlooked were experienced silently and privately between me and God. Of course, it didn’t take long for me to realise that I am not the only one who feels this way. Everyone, at some point, experiences the painful feelings of being overlooked for something they believed was meant for them, or for something they greatly desired from God. I had thoughts like: “Maybe I’m not posting enough,” or “I’m not putting myself out there enough.” My wounded and confused heart would cry: “Perhaps they think I’m not anointed enough,” and so on.
Of course, these thoughts only deepened the negative feelings of rejection. But our God is bigger than our thoughts and feelings. He is greater than the dreams we have for ourselves, and He took a year to show me that I was exactly where He wanted me to be. If He wanted me somewhere else, He would have placed me there. This reminded me of His righteous character—that He is good, He is kind, and I am His daughter.
Like some women reading this, I had a difficult time believing this at first because, without realising it, I was looking for a person to place me where I thought I should be. So, when God told me to take a year out of ministry, it only heightened my fear of being overlooked and hidden. Yet, it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
You’ll be glad to know, however, that I obeyed. I took a year out of ministry and six months off social media. What happened next over the course of my one-year sabbatical absolutely blew me away. I received more ministry opportunities than I had in the previous two years before the break. And this was without posting, asking, striving, or forcing anything.
Yes, I felt even more hidden before the opportunities came. Yes, I wondered how anyone would notice what I was doing. Yes, it felt as if my friends were far ahead of me. But God used that break, and I pray through this text, to show you that He is the one ordering our steps. Though we may feel overlooked, we are never overlooked by God. He might slow us down, He might sit us down for a season, or speed us up. What matters most is knowing His will, His word, and His voice—and following Him daily.
Psalm 37:23 offers a beautiful reminder: “The steps of a [good and righteous] man are directed and established by the Lord, and He delights in his way and blesses his path.” Just reading this, I realise that God cannot order your steps if His eyes aren’t on you all the time. The fact that you didn’t get that position or opportunity doesn’t mean He doesn’t love or value you. Perhaps, consider that what He has for you is specifically for you. He will not withhold anything good that He has ordained for you. As Psalm 84:11 says, “For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord will give grace and glory; no good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly.” James echoes this in James 1:17: “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”
So, my sisters, the point I want to make is this: Your feelings are valid, and they are real. I am so sorry for the pain and the experiences of being overlooked—I knew them too well. But the Lord has given me a refreshing perspective. Instead of forcing something to happen or wondering why I wasn’t chosen, I now delight in the fact that He delights in me, and He is good. I delight in the truth that I only want to be where His presence is and where He has ordained—not where I’ve forced my way in.
So, give your feelings and disappointments to God. Take hold of His hand and walk with Him through the next stage, trusting that He holds your future. You can be confident that He does not overlook or devalue your gifts and talents. With grace, He will open only the doors He has for you. We can enjoy the journey with rest, confidence, and serve God from the heart, knowing we are loved, seen, and that His eyes on us are what matter most.
